Comments on: Successful Teens http://www.housewifetheologian.com/successful-teens/ The Gospel Interrupting the Ordinary Tue, 24 Jun 2014 14:05:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.9.1 By: Dana Tuttle http://www.housewifetheologian.com/successful-teens/#comment-1480 Thu, 16 Feb 2012 14:29:40 +0000 http://www.housewifetheologian.com/?p=911#comment-1480 5 year old twin boys here who are already asking very hard theological questions. 2 very different personalities. One is very passionate, which means he is naturally a passionate “fighter” aswell. I try to allow this God given trait in him and not quench it. I don’t want to “squelch” that passion in him and make him a replica of a “nice” boy. Ofcoarse with limitations, I allow him to be the expressive person that he is! I loved this article! Somehow I missed it!?

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By: Aimee Byrd http://www.housewifetheologian.com/successful-teens/#comment-1464 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:47:31 +0000 http://www.housewifetheologian.com/?p=911#comment-1464 Doc B, I have twin brothers who are only 11. Twin boys are such a blessing–and a handful!! Good point about the imperatives with the indicatives.

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By: Aimee Byrd http://www.housewifetheologian.com/successful-teens/#comment-1463 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:45:52 +0000 http://www.housewifetheologian.com/?p=911#comment-1463 Great point, Tabitha. Sometimes it’s better to point them in the direction for learning than just giving them the answers anyway.

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By: Doc B http://www.housewifetheologian.com/successful-teens/#comment-1462 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:16:15 +0000 http://www.housewifetheologian.com/?p=911#comment-1462 I agree with your approach, Tim, and I like how you word it. One of our primary roles as parents is to teach our children what it means to be under authority, particularly the authority of God. “Because I’m the Dad” is the most important reason I can imagine for obedience, because it reflects our response to our Heavenly Father. And you are right; with little ones, moving past that to an explanation that makes sense to them is important…they need to understand what benevolence is when it comes to why commands are given. (In the language of theology, they need to see the imperatives in light of the indicatives.)

My oldest are still 16 (twin boys). So far, it seems to be working. By God’s grace, that is.

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By: Tabitha http://www.housewifetheologian.com/successful-teens/#comment-1461 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:12:19 +0000 http://www.housewifetheologian.com/?p=911#comment-1461 My daughter’s only fourteen months so I don’t know from direct experience, but I’m actually looking forward to hard questions I DON’T know the answers to. What better way to teach my kids that learning is more than going to school than by saying ‘you know, I don’t know. Why don’t we see what we can find out.’ I’ve learned more since I graduated than in all the years in school, and I haven’t even started teaching yet.

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By: Aimee http://www.housewifetheologian.com/successful-teens/#comment-1459 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:54:47 +0000 http://www.housewifetheologian.com/?p=911#comment-1459 I think the hardest part is when we don’t know the answer, or even worse, when we know the answer is pointed to a change we need to make in ourselves.

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By: Tim http://www.housewifetheologian.com/successful-teens/#comment-1458 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:37:55 +0000 http://www.housewifetheologian.com/?p=911#comment-1458 I did something similar when it came to avoiding pat answers, Aimee. When my kids were little and would ask why I was telling them to do something, I made a conscious decision never to rely on “Because I’m the Dad.” But sometimes I had to remind them that they needed to do what their mom and I tell them to do, so I might start with “Because I’m the Dad” but add the explanation for whatever was going on. most of the time though I skipped the Dad part and went straight to the explanation.

I think this has helped my kids to see that questions get real answers in our home. Like you say, this should be the place where our kids know they can ask the hard questions. My kids have asked some hard ones over the years! Their successes now that they are both in college may not always look like society’s version of success, but they are growing in God’s kingdom and that’s where real success happens.

Tim

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