Comments on: How Well Do You Really Know the Person You Love? The Gospel Interrupting the Ordinary Mon, 23 Jun 2014 21:08:56 +0000 hourly 1 By: Becca Wed, 16 May 2012 21:26:20 +0000 I just want to say a big THANK YOU! for being a voice in the fact that theology should matter to women and mean as much as it does for men. I hole heartedly agree with you and share your burden! Being in my early twenties I’m craving to see more women to actually care about it. It is such an encouragement to read all of your posts that are predominantly Christ exaulting and not ALL about girl related issue.

By: Aimee Byrd Wed, 16 May 2012 20:42:18 +0000 Great points guys. Doc B, you know I’d be honored to have your daughter reading.
And Tim, I forget who said it now but it went something like, “For those who say ‘I just love Jesus; I’m not into all that theology stuff…” The minute you ask, “Who is Jesus?” you are entering the realm of theology.” Maybe Sproul?
Laura–I definitely don’t like the separating in church on Sunday morning. My husband and I attend Sunday school together, worship, of course, as well as a nurture (small) group. My women’s study is on Tuesday mornings. I love them all! And you are right in your cautions against stereotyping. But women are women and men are men, so we definitely reflect different facets of the “gem.”

By: Laura M. Wed, 16 May 2012 17:16:02 +0000 Great post. Re: The quote from a Dee Brestin book on how men share more around women. My thoughts: A concern I have is that men and women so often seem separated in the church for Bible study or learning. Don’t get me wrong here – there is a time/place for men’s and women’s ministry! But I seem to observe that men and women are separated almost ALL the time. I think this is a disadvantage and problem on several levels. Men and women each reflect the image of God differently, and we need each other to more completely understand God. I think we can end up with lopsided perspectives because we are seeing things only through a “feminine” or “masculine” viewpoint. Men need to hear women, and women need to hear men in order to grow spiritually. Together we image God. If that makes sense? But this can’t happen if they are always separated from each other.

And also in reference to the study you quote – Besides men being more likely to share b/c of the influence/presence of women who tend to be more relational and nurturing, likewise I’d think the women can be helped by the more logical/analytical perspective of men.

However, we also need to remember that while men and women are indeed different that not every woman is pure nurture nor every man pure logic. There can be a spectrum and God has blessed each of us with different personalities and gifts. I’m a woman, but I definitely lean more towards the logic than nurture side.

By: Tim Wed, 16 May 2012 15:07:05 +0000 There are so many good points here, Aimee. I like how you bookend the article with these two lines:

So when we use the word love, it has to be based on content and a commitment.


Christ’s love is a powerful love that bore my sin on a cross, enduring the father’s wrath. It is a love that he laid his life down for. And it is a love that gave me all of his own righteousness.

Seeing those two together makes me think that the content and commitment that make love real is the content and commitment in Christ’s love.

I liked the reminder that theology matters, too. When I taught a theology/doctrine class a few months back I told the class they couldn’t help doing theology because any time someone says “I believe in Jesus” or “God is great”, any time someone asks “Would you pray for me” or “What hymn should we sing next”, they are making a statement grounded in theology whether they know it or not. Besides, I think learning theology stuff is a hoot!


P.S. I have a new post up at Rachel Stone’s place. I hope you get a chance to take a look:

By: Doc B Wed, 16 May 2012 14:17:08 +0000 Funny coincidence (that’s read providence to us reformed folks); on the way to school this morning, my daughter (age 13, 7th grader) asked me, “Dad, if I go to seminary, what could I do?”

I may have to start letting her read your blog. (c:

(And yes, I’m one of those old guys who read your blog daily! Though, I do skip a few posts that get too girly for me, ha ha.)