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50 Shades of Strange

Written By: Aimee Byrd - Jul• 25•14

Well, I would say the first shade of strange hit me at a neighborhood Christmas party almost two years ago. Matt and I look forward to this annual event. There are some couples there that we hardly get to see throughout the year, and it is always fun catching up.

One neighbor I haven’t seen in a while asked me what I had been getting into over the year, and I had the opportunity to tell her about the book I had been writing. I explained to her that it was about how our knowledge of God shapes our everyday living. Now you never know what kind of reaction you are going to get when you tell people you write Christian books. But I wasn’t prepared for this one. She was thrilled because she loves to read, and as a matter of fact, she was currently devouring 50 Shades of Grey. I think I my facial expression matched that of Ralphie when he decoded his first Little Orphan Annie message in his bathroom.

Next thing you know, she calls her husband over to tell him about my writing. And she starts chatting away about 50 Shades. Her husband is smiling like it was so cute that his wife was “into” a book like that. It was all very strange and uncomfortable for me. This is a conservative looking woman, a mom of two boys, in her 40’s. If her husband was bragging at the party that he was reading a porn novel, I would think she’d feel very disrespected and ashamed.

Of course, there were many shades of strange like this when 50 Shades grew in popularity. Since it was one of the fastest-selling book series ever, I had already looked up the reviews. One thing that bothered me terrible was that discerning readers (who had no problem with the “erotica” genre) were complaining about how poorly the book was written. They point out the many overused phrases, the juvenile plot, lack of character development, and even how bad the sex scenes are described. One reviewer said it is clearly written for bored housewives (may I add, who must not ever read good books) and hormonal teenagers.

So I usually ask about the actual quality of the writing, since it is a book and all…

Now the trailer is out for the movie. And just this week, I am encountering more shades of strange for a movie that isn’t even releasing until February. I am shocked by some of my mom friends that have posted the trailer on Facebook, tagging some of my other mom friends about the “Mom’s Night Out” they look forward to having in February. Some of these women profess to be Christians. They all have daughters in middle or high school. And sons.

My first reaction was, “This is 50 shades of hypocrisy!” Would they want their husbands to be bragging about the porn they were looking forward to watching together? Wouldn’t they be humiliated? Of course, it’s a double standard: it’s somehow sexy for women to watch porn. And if these husbands are counting on a movie to make their sex lives with their wives better, well, that’s a little humiliating too. And sad.

My daughters are old enough to pick up on the 50 shades of strange that will no doubt be happening around them. I’m sure it will be talked about in the high school. And worse, they may find some of their friends’ moms going. I assume that the movie is going to follow the same BDSM so-called plotline as the book. In which case, Christians and non-Christians alike should be joining forces in outrage over the thought that women are portrayed as getting off on abuse. I suspect a lot more men and teenage boys will be going to the movie than have bothered to read the book. How are they going to react when unwanted beatings are glorified in sex? Is the message going to be “this is what women really want”?

I think that in the months building up to this movie, we need to be engaging this 50 shades of strange, asking good questions. This is an opportunity for believers to reach out to our unbelieving friends and ask if this is really the road that we want to go down. Do we really want to be encouragers of promiscuity and abuse? Do we really believe that this is good sex? Do we want our sons and daughters to think women want to be dehumanized and beaten to be aroused? This movie is a wake up call. And to think, it all started with bad writing…

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49 Comments

  1. Carla Gasser says:

    I could not agree with you more and have had similar experiences with friends who profess faith and those who do not. I love your challenge…we need to ENGAGE the culture on this and not shy away from talking about it. God can use this to open many doors if we have the faith and courage to speak up for truth. Amen, sister!

  2. Ha! I loved this blog! My husband had never heard of the book, and I was telling him a little about it last night because of all the articles I saw on the trailer. When I described it as “mommy porn”, he didn’t quite get why you would put those two words together. But I was telling him that it was apparently really popular with young and older women who may or may not be moms.

    But although I haven’t read the book, I completely agree with your assessment here. It seems as if the book (and the movie) has really glorified perversion in sexual intimacy (not even considering that this is all fornication anyway). Not only that, the book is stirring up the sin of lust in many women’s hearts, and I’ve read that after reading some sections, women are just jumping on top of their husbands. That’s made me think: isn’t that adultery in a sense? The stimulation and desire is derived by some other man for a man like that, although they use their husbands as an outlet. And that’s concerning too, especially if you have professing Christian women reading this book, and even more so if they are married women. Christ said adultery begins with lust in the heart, and my heart is broken if Christian women (especially wives) are not discerning enough to recognize this (plus the other issues with reading this) and call a sin, a sin.

  3. This would be classified as “Emo Porn” (Emotional Porn)…which a great many women are into.

    Just go to your local grocery store’s magazine and book aisle. I was challenged to do so sometime ago and it was eye opening…mainly because I never paid attention to its vastness.

  4. Persis says:

    I definitely agree that this is an opportunity for Christians to set the record straight. In addition to making physical and emotional abuse acceptable and even desirable, this also perpetuates that myth that the love of a good woman can change a man.

  5. Anna Anderson says:

    It is discouraging to see the world messing with our metaphor. In Christ, we approach it differently, worshipfully, not as an end, but as a means of exploring the riches of grace (Eph. 5:9). Without that, it seems the glory is drained and it becomes as mundane as mud, and as fruitless as rot (Eph. 5:14).

  6. Tim says:

    Fifty shades of strange is an apt characterization, Aimee. I wonder if churches will take the opportunity to counter the film’s release next February with a series on the Song of Songs. Now there’s an eye popping piece of sexual literature for you.

  7. susie says:

    Amy,once again thanks for the zealous encouragement to be bold and engage others on this topic and the soon to be released movie..I will look forward to engaging others as the film is released.Thanks for the heads up and for your insightful comments….Susie Born

  8. Leave it to the feminists…just when we finally figure out, scientifically, how bad porn is for the human psyche, the feminists mainstream it for women.

    I’m linking your post on FB, Aimee. I have a number of women around me who find this thing ‘normal’, which I find unbelievable. Maybe coming from a woman, they will see the problem. They certainly don’t like it when I call the movie what it is. I can’t comprehend how a thinking woman would consider BDSM the our hyper-sexualized culture to be ‘better’ for women, but somehow, they do.

    Perhaps, all along, the feminist movement has really been driven by a bunch of perverted males?

  9. Kim says:

    I will confess, I read it. I had to understand the hoopla (fun word, btw). Curiosity killed the cat kind of deal! It was odd and uncomfortable. My thoughts were, these characters are really messed up and it’s being glorified. In real life we would be like “you really need help. Counseling perhaps!” And yes, the writing was awful! It was a huge waste of time and I cannot imagine seeing the movie. No thanks! The fact that it took off is really disturbing. I have friends posting the trailor also and I’m shocked. The pride behind it all. “Yeah, I watch porn, I’m cool. What of it?” Ummm, PROBLEM! Not cool!

  10. RStarke says:

    I’ve definitely had a conversation or two about this book with the sparkly moms at my daughter’s Christian school. I do think there’s a little bit of “what’s good for the goose” going on here. I think there’s a feminine perspective that as long as it’s not *illustrated* it’s okay. I also think the topics of emotion, desire in general, and sexual desire in particular, have suffered from a dearth of godly, deep-thinking female voices. In more conservative circles, the conversation around the mechanics of emotional and sexual expression (let alone their theological meaning) is about holding emotion at arms length, and keeping sexual desire in check. That translates to permitting men to live lives of emotional repression whilst simultaneously being beaten up and down over their unrestrained libidos. Meanwhile, women are believed to be overruled by emotion in 28 day cycles, and it’s assumed that sexual desires are really only a thing if we’re a 40-something Real Housewife.

    I remember when The Shack came out, many in the church (and I was one) were having holy freak out sessions over the book’s content. But several of my pastors lead me down a much more loving direction of asking questions – *What* is it in this book that draw you? If we jump to too many conclusion (even if they’re the right ones), we lose an opportunity for ongoing dialog. It’s not that I think we should do that thing where we then try and read it “redemptively”, but asking questions about whether sex has any meaning at all, is good place to start.

    • Anna Anderson says:

      I really appreciated what you wrote here. I believe that in some ways, we assume that we get the appeal. But I think you are right in questioning whether we really understand why something like this draws women. And our inquiries must go beyond generalizations and talk about the degeneration of our culture to the uniqueness of each individual and the circumstances of their lives which would make a book like this appear to meet a need that they perhaps keenly sense. Does it help her battle personal shame? Is she discontent with her husband? Is she bored? Yes, thank you for encouraging us to meet our neighbor on her road with the heart of the Samaritan.

  11. Lynn says:

    It really is hard for me to understand how a christian woman, committed to following Jesus can ok reading a book like this. Wow!!!

  12. Karmen says:

    I didn’t read the book and don’t plan on seeing the movie… I am very bothered by the radio and TV trailer ads. I’m not sure if that woman is having an asthma attack, choking on a chicken bone or getting a punch to the throat, but it certainly doesn’t sound very pleasant and I really dread the first time my teenagers hear the ad….Ugh.

  13. A Wheelr says:

    This is a wonderful post! We are without a doubt living in some strange times. I pray that we will enter into 50 shades of mourning over our sinful society and find 50 ways to share Truth. My heart for women is the call of Titus 2. We need to study it and live it. If we are implanting Truth in our hearts and minds there is no room for even 1 shade of immorality. Find the younger women, sit them down, and teach them 50 Truths about God!

  14. As a librarian, I was always trained to ask “Have you read the book?” when someone started to complain about it. So I would feel odd beginning a conversation about a book I haven’t read and don’t plan to read. I guess I could just start a conversation about porn in general, maybe?I don’t watch tv, so I haven’t seen the trailers…I hope I don’t see them anytime soon!
    Found your blog from Tim Challies site…. subscribing now.

  15. Sharon Staten says:

    Sad to think the Christian’s that will see this and not think anything about it. I am appalled by the books people read and openly discuss at church as if it is ok. Garbage in – Garbage out. So important to keep in the Word of God daily.

  16. allllal says:

    to be fair, the beatings in the book are not described as “unwanted”…it kindof sounds like the female character liked and consented to the beatings because they aroused her…i say this having not read the book and not wanting to read it…but it does not sound like consensual abuse…it seems like both parties wanted it…a fine point, but it’s important to be precise in our arguments for and against a thing

  17. Kim says:

    They were consensualy messed up. Since I’m the only one so far who did read the book, I can say that with confidence! The book is totally warped. A young girl who lacks self esteem and a guy who drowns his sorrows in his warped sexual addiction. But, wraped in an empathetic package that tries to make you connect. Obviously, I didn’t connect. I was left sad.

    I don’t get the women who took a positive away from this book. Then again, I don’t understand the obsession with Harry potter and it’s positive spin on witch craft.

  18. wendysclark says:

    I am SO glad you posted this message. One of my book clubs selected this and I was appalled. I read our required 100 pages and stopped. At the meeting I expressed my belief that this book’s acceptance, let alone huge popularity, was a strong indicator of the decline of our society’s morals and standards. I was mocked at my over-reaction and, more surprisingly, not supported by the other women who are Christians. While I agree it’s important to express our opinions (my husband loves to tell people I firmly believe everyone is entitled to my opinion!) I doubt it will have much of an effect – pearls to swine comes to mind…

  19. There is already an excellent Christian book written about 50 Shades, by Dr. Juli Slattery, from Moody, that will help women understand the dangers. Pulling Back the Shades. Get the book!

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  21. Jen says:

    I have to say, I don’t agree with your post.. I fundamentally believe that my relationship with God, where I worship and how I practice my religion has very little to do with what shows I watch, what books I read etc. I can say this because the work I do everyday is for God – and I believe that he knows me better than I know myself.

    I am not saying 50 Shades was the best book. I am not saying I believe in the movement that came after it, however, I do not believe that THIS ONE BOOK AND MOVIE are causing the downfall of society.

    Here is my point: As someone in the medical field, I can say, sex does kill. Diseases acquired by having unprotected sex can kill you. There is consensual sex in this movie, should Christians be outraged and flock to the movie theatre to educate others about God? Because if that is the case – educate people about guns and the murders of innocent school children when there is violence in a new movie released. Educate and preach to others about every movie showing war, hatred or discrimination in any form.

    I personally have a much larger issue with the murder of innocent school children than I do with consensual adult sex. I pray everyday for positive changes in this world: ending hunger, creation of jobs, ending the violence in the world that is taking place in the name of religion. I can say that I have never once prayed that couples should have less consensual sex. Quite frankly it is none of my business. Is it yours?

    • Sherri says:

      You cannot separate your faith from the rest of your life. Your faith and the word of God should have everything to do with how you live, including what you read and watch. In everything we do, the choices that we make should be directed by the Christian worldview we hold to! It makes me sad to think that you don’t think what you believe has anything to do with how you live.
      And you miss the point of Aimee’s post. She is concerned about the warping of God’s gift of sexuality by the author. You say consensual sex is none of your business. But if you’ve read the book, you’ve made it your business by basically being right there in the bedroom with them.

    • Tracey says:

      You are deluding yourself. Try reading J.C. Ryle’s book, Holiness, and see if your arguments stand up. Sin is sin–and all of it separates us from God. Would you be as dismissive if the Marquis de Sade’s work was suddenly in vogue among Christians? What I see is “powers and principalities” working hard to get women to accept evil as normal, especially in their relationships with the men in their lives. And funny enough, there’s a whole passage in the Bible about how marriage is a picture of Christ and His Church. Do you think Satan has a vested interest in undermining that?

    • Barb says:

      I have a problem with innocent children being exposed to this movie! Christians I know take their kids and grand-kids to R-rated movies and don’t think anything about it. What about all the kids that will be seeing this junk. It makes me sick. There is so much perversion surrounding us and I am so baffled at how Christians accept it. I was in the world for years rejecting Jesus. I am so grateful I got the chance to come to him and give him my life before it was too late. I can’t stand the stuff I used to like – stuff like this movie. I agree with Sherri – how can your relationship with God having nothing to do with what you read/watch? We are new creatures and our new nature goes in line with God’s will. And his will is that we be holy as he is holy. Of course it will have something to do with it. And Tracey – yes – I agree with you we are being programmed to accept evil as normal. In what I have seen – to even accept evil as righteousness. The world has come into the church and there is no regard for holy or godly living and we are told not to judge. I’m so tired of that. Of course we have to judge right from wrong. It’s called discernment. I Peter 1:14-16 “As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. 15 But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; 16 for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”
      The bible doesn’t say to be tolerant of sin and darkness – expose it and be holy. My heart breaks for people who want things their way – that way leads to death. And the time is short.
      Excellent article, thank you Aimee

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  23. I’m so sick and tire of hearing everybody’s opinion on this book/movie. If you don’t like it then don’t read it and or watch it. If somebody comes up to you talking about how much they love/look forward to it simple leave the conversation. All I’ve seen are “Christians ” looking down their nose at others. God knows what’s in your heart, and nobody else has the right to judge. It does say in the Bible that even thinking something is the same as doing it.. ex: adultery, murder… so if you’ve ever looked at somebody and hated or thought they were sexy you’re guilty. Unless you are Jesus himself you have had a thought that falls into the category of sin. But you don’t see anybody pointing the finger at themselves. And If you’re so worried about your kids being corrupted, home school them and make sure they don’t have any friends or access to the Internet, because I guarantee that’s the only way it’s going to happen. To many people are getting off standing on their pedestal and preaching at others while looking down their noses and avoiding mirrors! Comment made by a happily married wife, mother of three, Christian, who enjoys reading a variety of books.

    • willowsprite says:

      If no one ever had the right to judge, where would we be? There is right in this world, and there is also wrong. I think we are allowed to ask questions and make calls about these things. I don’t think anyone here is “getting off standing on their pedestal and preaching,” rather pointing out how depraved this book is. As a story that features a warped view of sexuality, we believe godly people shouldn’t be partaking of it. We are to strive for holiness and live as children of light, and indulging in pornography isn’t light or holy.

    • Anna Anderson says:

      Amber, you rightly call all to humility and right judgments about ourselves and others, but you also appear to be employing a double standard. You base your judgments upon the Word of God, for that indeed is our authority, but then you forbid “Christians” from doing the very thing that you have just done. If only the sinless are called to make judgments, than you are right to judge those that judge, but what if the sinless One Himself actually requires us to judge (1 Corinthians 5:12; 6:1-3)? You also are right to identify the heart as the seat of corruption, and that is why we guard our hearts and renew our minds by drawing near to the only One who can reach our corrupt hearts and transform us needy sinners.

    • Sissy says:

      If you are sick and tired, why are you commenting here? You advise others to walk away, but you feel the need to comment. Interesting.
      The tired old misunderstanding “judge not lest ye be judged” just keeps coming. Aimee, in my opinion, is giving her thoughts on the book and movie. And, this after all, is her blog. Has she condemned anyone? No. I, too, am frequently appalled at the lack of discernment of Christians.

  24. Jen says:

    You are so right about this, Amy. (It reminds me of the whole “Magic Mike” thing from a year or so ago, only it’s worse.) To see this sort of thing out in the open is unnerving enough, but for professing Christians to be publicly excited about it is extremely unnerving and, really, saddening. Pornography is pornography, and that is exactly what this is—it is merely aimed at a different (albeit larger) demographic. The women defending this would probably not be so loud were their husbands subscribing to whatever it is out there today. I’ve not yet seen or heard an ad, for which I am grateful, but we watch a lot of TCM around here, and they don’t screen commercials for anything but other old movies!

    For those of us who recognize the danger here, it is a good time to gather our resources together about how harmful a book like this is for believers to read, so we may protect our brothers and sisters in the church if nothing else. Barring that, we might want to remind ourselves that a little leaven leavens the whole loaf…and that Jesus told us if we love Him, we will obey Him. He is with us always—and this book is about the last thing I want to be reading in His presence, to say nothing of the movie!

    Thank you. It saddens me that we are likely to find ourselves having to continually warn against such things and the harm they do to our souls and spirits more and more often.

    (Here via Steak & A Bible)

  25. Barbara says:

    It seems to me that everyone already knows the book is of the erotica, or “Mommy Porn” genre, so I don’t think we can belabor that point without beating a dead horse. I’ve kept quiet on the subject over the past few years up till now, but many of the Christian critiques seem to skim over the main point or miss it altogether. At the risk of getting mixed up in a hornet’s nest, may I submit this –

    I haven’t read the book. I don’t have to read the book to know what it is about. I was one of those women. Especially in my early 30s, but throughout my adult sexual life (I am now saved and joyfully celibate as a single woman) I was very much enthralled with light BDSM, among other “alternate” types of things. It is not for nothing that instead of the “Proverbs 31 woman” or the “Titus 2 woman” I primariy identify as the “Luke 7 woman.” You know her. The sinner woman everyone looked down their noses at, who washed her Savior’s feet with her tears and wiped them dry with her hair. The one who had been forgiven much. He has taken me from the edge of the abyss and given me life and light and a heart to serve and to love my precious Heavenly Husband and His beautiful Bride.

    See, I couldn’t have understood that physical sexual expression is designed by a good God to join two people into one flesh in a consumation of a union that excludes all others because Christ only joins Himself to His Bride through the outpouring of HIs Spirit into each member of that Bride, that in so doing He forms an unbreakable covenant with her and joins Himself to her forever; that the marriage bed is but a shadow of that, but a beautiful one and a very real, mystical one. I couldn’t have known that the character of that Husband is one of kindness, gentleness, self-control, love, faithfulness, peace, and patience, all of which is in exact opposition to pretty much everything I had known from the world, and especially incompatible with giving myself to men who were not in covenant with me and whose spirit was just like the world’s (as mine had been).

    A little anecdote – during the time that Christ was calling me to Himself I watched a film version of Pilgrim’s Progress – toward the end, as Christian and Faithful came to the orchards of Beaulah Land, they were offered to take good fruit from a tree grown by the King so that they could refresh themselves. I was completely taken aback that the fruit was pure and good – I was sure that there was poison or a blade or something – I had never known purity and goodness. It stuck with me. People who have never known purity and goodness can’t understand it, but it is what our souls were created for, and we’re called to reflect that and extend it to them. I couldn’t have begun to understand that, and when we present an argument about these cultural sorts of things that leaves that out, or that doesn’t in itself reflect the beauty of the character of the One whose kindness is meant to bring us to repentance, then I really think we just miss the point and we miss an opportunity to tell the world, “We have a Savior. He alone is beautiful and good and worthy. Come and see.”

  26. A says:

    I would never condone physical abuse in any form, but this is a completely different genre. The book itself is abhorrent as far as the writing goes, but there are many different types of people out there who enjoy different things and you are writing about something you obviously know absolutely nothing about. If you don’t like it, don’t partake. Nobody asked you to try it. And how about you teach your children that if it feels wrong it is wrong, but not to have such closed minds about all of what life has to offer so if they do find themselves enjoying the play of a BDSM lifestyle, a homosexual lifestyle, a trans- lifestyle that is outside of the norm, they are not left feeling depressed, ostracized, suicidal and alone because they were taught by their parents that what they’re doing is wrong, that they are evil, and that there is something wrong with them.

  27. K.C. says:

    I have had no interest in either reading the book or seeing the movie. Like the blog-author, I heard enough to know, well, actually more than I needed to. However, the final straw for me was reading in two different interviews that the fathers of two of the actresses (including Don Johnson, formerly of “Miami Vice” and “Nash Bridges”) have come out and said that, while proud of their daughters for getting work in such popular roles, CAN’T BRING THEMSELVES TO WATCH IT!

  28. Jane Eyre says:

    Aimee, I appreciate your wise thoughts on this and also appreciate Barbara’s courageous post.

    I understand that the film will be a lot milder than the source material (which I’ve not read, and have no intention of reading). I do realise that a milder version is still problematic for a Christian.

    I’m a single Christian lady and still a virgin. I’ve never been attracted to sado-masochism but as a younger woman, I did have a lot of fantasies about dominance and submission. I think this is very common. I also think it’s problematic, for all sorts of reasons. Although psychologically healthy people know the difference between fantasy and reality, these darker kinds of fantasies are still problematic, spiritually and emotionally.

    I’m saying this simply to show that Christian women can be as tempted by darker sexual stuff as much as anybody else. I understand all too well why women are attracted by Fifty Shades. It’s irrelevant how badly written the books are: they’re a means to an end, an entrance into a shady sexual world in which anything goes.

    Usually I sign with my real name but am not quite brave enough to do that with this post.

    I’m grateful that you have addressed this.

  29. Scott M says:

    Okay who is going to be the first hipster pastor to come up with the 50 Shades “Sermon Series”?

  30. Sara Takeuchi says:

    I agree. I have heard teachers in the teachers’ lounge at school talking about the book, like it’s great. I cannot bring myself to even glance at it. It sounds like nothing but nasty, kinky sex garbage to me. Christians need to steer clear of this worldly way of experiencing sex as God intended it to be. It’s a beautiful expression of connecting with your spouse, not a violent act of aggression against a woman! Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, women of God!

  31. […] are those who are very supportive of the books which I found very surprising. When Aimee Byrd wrote her recent article asking Christian women to think twice about reading what amounts to porn, there were many […]

  32. tomorrow says:

    I left an abusive marriage in 2012. My husband who hid behind a guise of Christianity for years did horrible sexual things to me and our young daughters. Let me tell you now, some of those “erotic”, “innocent” things women are gushing about after reading Fifty Shades…they’re not special. They don’t make you feel like a woman. They make you feel completely worthless. When the man who vowed to cherish you does these things and does not care what you are feeling or if you are enjoying the acts, you do not feel loved. Your body might respond to certain things because God made us sexual beings (and sex should be a wonderful thing!), but believe me, being treated this way is not love. It’s not being treasured or valued, or even recognized as more than property.

    Run. Get away from this stuff. Get it out of your head, out of your heart, out of your church, out of your home. All it does is destroy.

    • Aimee Byrd says:

      Thank you for sharing this. Although I am so sorry to hear what you and your daughters suffered through.

  33. […] those who are very supportive of the books which I found very surprising. When Aimee Byrd wrote her recent article asking Christian women to think twice about reading what amounts to porn, there were many […]

  34. Nana Babs says:

    The thought of this book and movie turns my stomach. I’m an so saddened to think “Christian” women think this is OK.

  35. Lora says:

    I read a very interesting article when the book came out by a university professor who pointed out that the book was really a disguised description of a child sexual abuse situation. The main character acts like a twelve year old child, responds like one and if you substituted her with a child the whole narrative ” makes sense” in a sick sort of way. Basically an encouragement for child abusers, right under our very noses. I wish i had kept the article… Very eye opening.

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